Online Dating Etiquette

Tips nie aku dapat dari match.com... actually untuk user depa la.. tp bila aku baca info dia, ak rasa, bleh di apply time kita online jgk... yela.. nowadays mmg ramai yg bkawan melalui online.. so..those are some tips for all of u..

Q: Writing a dating ad is too hard. Should I get my friend to do it?

A: By all means. Even if they don’t write it, it’s a good idea to ask your friends for their assessment of your dateable qualities. If they know you well, they may be able to see and articulate what you can’t.

However, don’t start the profile with: “I asked my friend to tell me why I’m a catch, and here’s what he said.” You’ll sound like a conjoined friend-twin who can’t think for him or herself.

Q: I’m really proud of my salary. Should I mention it?
A: Only if you want to be fabulously crude, or you’re actively seeking a gold-digger.

Q: I’m fresh from a break-up. Should I say so in my profile?

A: No! Keep it light and positive. Some things are best left unsaid until you’re a couple of successful dates down the line. These subjects include your ex, your nervous breakdown, your criminal record or your fungal infection. Even if it’s cleared up.

Q: Everyone lies about their age, right?

A: Surprisingly few do, because they know it’s a pointless strategy. If you meet someone you like, and they discover that you’ve lied, they’ll wonder what else you’ve been fibbing about.

Q: How many photos should I post?

A: More than one (people will think it’s the only decent photo of you in existence), but no more than five (people will think you’re conceited).

Q: Can I post a photo of myself with my shirt off?

A: Whether you’re a man or a woman, a photo with your shirt off makes you look desperate and/or only interested in finding someone who’ll leave before breakfast.

Q: I can’t think of anything to say in an email. Should I just wink at people?

A: Not if it’s your first contact with them. Your aim is to stand out from the crowd – and to look as though you’ve actually read their profile.

Q: Should I send a list of questions about their profile?

A: No, you’re not an interviewer. Drop them a note to say hello, and mention one or two points in their profile that intrigued you. Weave in some questions naturally when (and if) you get a correspondence going.

Q: Is it OK to write to lots of people at once?

A: Of course. You’re not going out with them yet. However, don’t send the same email to lots of people at once. You’re supposed to be interested in them and their profiles, not spamming everyone with junk mail saying “hi, you’re great and I’m available.”

Q: I emailed someone and they never wrote back. Did I offend them?
A: No, they just weren’t interested. Do you really want to get an email that says “thanks but no thanks”?

Q: How long should I keep someone waiting before I reply to their email? Three days, a week?
A: No! Reply within a day or two. Online dating moves fast, and there’s lots of competition. Don’t be over-keen and fire back an email within minutes, but don’t play hard to get either. You won’t “keep them keen,” you’ll make them find someone else to date.

Q: I’ve started swapping emails with someone. How often should I email them?
A: Take your cue from them. If they reply to you quickly, then you’re free to reply to them quickly. If they take a day or two to reply, play it more cool.

Q: They stopped writing to me. Should I keep writing to them?

A: No. If someone stops writing, they lost interest or met someone. Take it on the chin.

Q: Can I use smileys and text abbreviations in an email?

A: If that’s what you normally do, go ahead – it’s the real you. But as a rule of thumb, avoid too many smileys and steer clear of TXT SPK or capitalised words, or you’ll come across like a shouty 13-year-old.

Q: Someone wrote to me and I’m not interested. Should I block them?
A: No. The ‘block’ feature on most dating websites is only to be used if someone is bothering you. It’s very rude to block them simply because you don’t fancy them.

Q: We’ve been emailing each other for a few weeks. Is it too soon to ask for a date?

A: On the contrary, it may be too late. Don’t allow an email conversation to drag on for weeks without a date. You can’t judge chemistry unless you meet up, so you may be wasting each other’s time. Six emails in total is enough to know whether you want a date.

Q: We had a couple of dates and I’m not that into him. Can I dump him by email?
A: Yes, but only if you’ve gone out once or twice. If you've been out several times, you must deliver the break-up face to face.

p/s: Klau ada tips2 yg xkena, korang bleh ignore je... Thank you..

My Journey (Penang- KL-England)

Salam...

Pejam celik dah 2 bulan aku diperantauan.. England, negara impian aku sebelum nie... Teringin sangat nak datang sini... alhamdulillah, akhirnya ak sampai...

    Bersama mak, mak chaq, n pak chaq.. adik di belakang..

Bersama Ros, my collegemate, n my cousin, dikno n k.su.. thanks!!

View penang dari dlm flight n Air Asia dari Penang ke LCCT....

Jumaat, 9hb April 2010, kul8.15pg meninggalkan penang.. Time kat LCCT, nasib baik sahabat baik a.k.a clgemate dtg teman n belanja makan..hehe... klau x, mst t'congak2 keseorangan.. NOR BAIZURA BT IBRAHIM, thank you very much dear... kul 3.15ptg meninggalkan M'sia dari LCCT.. Hari yang sama, tepat kul 11mlm aku selamat sampai di stansted airport...

My friend... Baizura@bai@ uda... thanks!! luv ya.... xoxo..

Time queue up nak checked in baggage...

Air Asia X... Fly to London....

Imigresen.... bukan senang nak masuk Uk nie.... macam2 imigresen tanya... datang untuk apa... nak duduk dgn sapa kat sini... brapa lama kat sini.. ada beli tiket return x.. sapa ada kat m'sia.. apa ayah, mak, abg n adik buat kat m'sia.. r they working... brapa byk cash yang ada.. ada bank@credit@debit card x.. macam2 la... some of people said, i was lucky sbb berjaya masuk uk nie... to be honest bukan senang nak q&a dgn imigresen tu.. luckily ada sorang makcik n kawan dia teman time line up tu.. n makcik tu ada pesan, klau boleh try dapatkan english imigresen.. klau bangsa lain nie dorang banyak songeh sket.. from my view, mmg betui makcik tu cakap...ramai non-eu yg cuba masuk tp xlepas... kena tahan kat kaunter... alhamdulillah, i got through it... lepas2 d interview.. sempat lg ak melawak ngn imigresen tu... 'so, am i pass to get into UK?'(dgn muka blagak).. dia ckap.. 'yah, u r, njoy ur days in Uk'...yg penting, imigresen tu handsome.. hehe.. lepas ja dari kaunter imigresen tu, terus ke tmpt nk collect baggage... tinggal xbyk pon bag.. ye la, mostly eu yg msuk situ, drg lepas terus la.. yg tak best pulak, kat airport nie, klau nak guna trolley, kena ada coin £(pound sterling).. dh la barang berlambak2... 1 beg, 2 kotak, ngn bag pack lg... dh bag bkn mcm beg af tu.. jenuh la dok menarik plk... memang segan la.. semua mat saleh kat situ ushar jer... dlm hati nie dok membebel sorang2.. bukan drg nak tolong.. bleh dok ushar jer.. hampeh tui..nasib baik exit dia xjauh...klau x, jenuh nak mengheret barang2 tu..

kuar2 dari airport tu, peh.. sejuk sampai ke tulang.. nasib baik cousin bawak jacket.. klau x.. mmg xtahan... then we all terus move blik ke Hull... kul 11.30mlm.. on the way tu, berenti 2,3 kali kat services or kat m'sia panggil r&r.. berenti ke toilet n tido.. peh... mmg sejuk... menggeletar badan nie... then kul 5 pg.. dh cerah.... kat sini matahari naik cepat... tp turun lambat... sebelum sampai Hull.. singgah kat york dulu... shopping kat car boot... mula2 xpandai sgt nak shopping kat sini, sbb duet £ pon xpandai nak guna lg... so.. tgk2 je la barang yg ada.. yg bestnya... sampai2 dh dapat 2 set cawan made in england... best!!

After round2.. terus ke Hull about 45 minutes camtu..then sampai rumah, cousin terus masak n makan.. mmg lapar sgt dah pon sbb dari malam xmakan apa.. harapkan makanan dlm flight tu.. mmg xkenyang sgt pun... dan... bermula la hidup ku d perantauan sebagai seorang 'baby sitter' contract selama 6 bulan... :)

P/s: xsempat nak ucap terima kasih kat mak cik tu... she helped me a lot during my journey... hope to meet her again... tu pon dh ingt2 lupa muka dia... :(

Melayu a.k.a ISLAM

Salam...

Bila bercakap pasal orang melayu, banyak sangat 'perception' buruk dari orang... janji melayu... jam melayu...'melayu boleh'...melayu blaa..blaa..blaa... cakap pasal melayu boleh nie... kadang2 orang melayu sekarang dah tak macam melayu (note: bukan semua tp sesetengah).. rambut perang.. dressing up macam 'mat/minah saleh' time 'summer'... clubbing... "minum-minum"... pegang2(bukan muhrim)...etc...etc...

Pernah sekali saya post di status 'facebook'.. apa bestnya clubbing sampai orang melayu suka melepak kat sana... tengah2 malam keluar, ke mana lagi kalau bukan tempat mcm tu... (maaf jika salah).. jawapan pertama yang saya dapat ialah satu pertanyaan.. "salahkah g clubbing"... astagfirullahalazim.... istighfar panjang saya... orang melayu juga tanya soalan tu... bila bercakap pasal clubbing... clubbing mestilah di kelab malam.. kelab malam mesti jual arak... beer..wain.. liquor.. etc..etc..dalam erti kata lain.. air kencing setan... kalau tempat ada air kencing setan tu.. confirm2 dah jadi haram tempat tu... dah la nak masuk tempat tu pon kena bayar... masuk dalam tu "konon2" hanya untuk menari.. betulkah??... mmg betul.. hanya untuk menari time kali pertama menjejakkan kaki... kali 2,3,4... mestilah ada dorongan untuk m'extra'kan kegiatan dimalam hari..(wallahualam..hanya bfikir secara logik).. bukan sekadar melanggah air kencing setan.. tapi pada yg perempuan... takkan pegi clubbing pakai tudung kot... mesti la freehair.. klau pakai tudung malu... nanti orang gelak...dah alang2 tak pakai tudung, baik sexy terus.. bukan orang nampak pon..GELAP!!... ha..ha..pastu time dalam 'club' tu, terkinja2 macam org tgh menyucuk langit..(tak pernah pegi tapi bcakap secara logik)..bersentuhan dengan lelaki bukan muhrim.. yang selebihnya takyah cerita la kn... yang pernah pegi lebih mengetahui.. so.. jawapan yang saya berikan pada soalan tu ialah 'mmg salah... haram lg..'.. then dia terus diam.. kadang2 orang melayu nie, bukan tak tau hukum hakam.. tp sengaja tak nak tekankan dalam kehidupan... nak enjoy jaa... c'mon la.. bumi dah semakin tua..silap2 tengah dok terkinja2, bumi terbelah dua.... haa dah tak sempat nak bertaubat... wallahualam....

Dalam banyak2 jawapan... saya suka dengan satu jawapan... 'klau dia islam, dia takkan p tempat2 mcm tu..'.. peh... makan dalam ayat tu... tapi.. saya sokong... melayu sekarang nie bukan semua 'islam' (wallahualam)..klau cakap melayu pon.. tp dress up macam bkn islam.. berpelukan dgn bukan muhrim..tak solat.. islam ka tu?..(bak kata nabil..lu pikir la sendiri!!...taknak comment lebih2... hanya ALLAH mampu menilai hambaNYA..)

Sehubungan ini... saya sbg seorg umat islam ingin mengajak saudara seagama utk bangun dari keseronakan duniawi sebelum mhadapi kesedihan d sana nnt, bangun dari tidur yg sekejap sblm mhadapi tidur yg lama, bangun dari kebingitan kini sebelum mhadapi kekerasan dan kegerunan suara di sana kelak.... selagi sempat u-turn, u-turn la anda kerana pintu taubat masih terbuka.. insyaAllah...

p/s: Maaf di pinta jika terkasar bahasa.. saya hanya manusia biasa...
Yang baik datang dari Allah swt... Yang buruk datang dari diri sendiri...wasalam..

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Permulaan 'post'.. biarlah saya memperkenalkan diri saya... nama saya NOR ATIQAH BINTI MD ALI JINNA... nama singkatan.. atiqah.. atau.. tiqah.. atau tqah atau iqa... gelaran iqa lebih dkenali di zaman kolej... tpksa menyingkatkan nama walaupun tak suka... nak ikutkan nama tak la panjang sangat.. tapi terpaksa mengikut kata-kata fasilitator.. pendekkan jugak nama kamu.. xkisah la apa pun... asalkan pendek dan mudah diingati... tp di zaman kolej.. ada yang memanggil dengan panggilan 'chombee'.. sebab orang penang katanya.. layan je la... sampaikan lecturer pon panggil dengan panggilan 'chombee'...he..he.. macam kelakar ja...

Asal.. orang cakap klau tengok muka dah tau.. penang is my hometown.. dilahirkan.. dibesarkan di penang... ada seorang abang, 25 tahun dan seorang adik lelaki 18tahun... saya sorang perempuan.. bila bercakap pasal anak perempuan sorang nie manja... tapi saya independent... tapi dalam independent pun.. dalam hati masih inginkan orang yang boleh menjaga diri ini...:)

Umur.. june 2010... 21 thn 6 bulan... bila lahir hujung2 tahun.. macam nie la nasibnya... kawan2 smua dh celebrate birthday... kita nie dah nak masuk tahun baru... baru nak genap umur... tapi bila pikir balik... xpe... nanti orang lain dah pencen.. kita xpencen lagi... hehe...

Hobi...saya suka main bowling... saya suka main internet...ari2 saya surfing internet... saya layan facebook... layan blog.. layan youtube... macam2 la... bak tagline astro.. macam2 ada...:)

Cinta... penah bcinta 2 kali.. alaa.. cinta monyet... lepas tu xminat sangat nak bcinta.. buang masa... kena amek hati... kena sms selalu.. call selalu.. gaduh2... ahh.. tensen jer.. so.. nasihat pada2 gadis2 yang tengah sekolah or yang baru lepas sekolah.. study dulu... dah abis study baru pikir pasal cintan cintun nie...:)

Pasal yang laen2.. insyaAllah akan diselitkan dalam post2 akan datang....sekian.. wasalam...


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